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    Dec252011

    Plea to Women Concerning Porn

    Dearest Ladies,


    This issue has been weighing heavily on my mind. The problem of pornography in our intimate relationships with husbands, fiancées, and boyfriends are no laughing matter. I realize it is frustrating and heartbreaking for your men to be doing this either in secret or in the open.

     

    But please, please, please, this is no joke. My marriage nearly ended because of it. Seven years, a house, three children, four pets, and all the memories, trials, and victories almost came to nothing because of porn. It is NOT “just a guy thing” as I once naively thought.

     

    It is NOT acceptable behavior just because it seems everybody else is doing it. Please, I beg you, do not tolerate this in your households and families.

     

    I have been reading an excellent book called An Affair of the Mind by Laurie Hall (not her real name), published by Focus on the Family. It is the personal story of the author and how she discovered her husband (a professing Christian) had been cheating on her with prostitutes from strip clubs.

     

    She does not mince words, and is a definite page-turner, addressing so many different aspects of porn and its effects. I encourage you all to PLEASE READ this as well.

     

    It is so chock full of information, I couldn’t even begin to relate it all to you. Although hers and my stories are different, there are many similarities too. I certainly understand how hard it can be to figure out what to do with your significant other. Please indulge me a passage from the book.

    "Even though we’re tempted to go over, under, or around painful circumstances, the best way out of a situation is always through…I could go over his addiction by pretending it didn’t matter…or, I could go under by joining Jack in his addiction…then, there was always the temptation to go around.

    I could take a detour in my life plan and divorce Jack…None of these seemed like good options to me because they all required me to abandon something precious to me…” (pp. 177-178)


    I can attest that the road “through” is not easy and is quite painful. But our marriage is slowly on the mend, and things have honestly never been better.

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